Tag: sexual

January 25, 2015

Why is it important to know?

Sexual activities can lead to not only unwanted pregnancy but also a list of STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)—some of which can be fatal. Today STDs are at epidemic proportions, and young people are the ones at the highest risk. Unfortunately, many teenagers are unaware of the dangers they face and do not take the initiative to learn about sexual safety until it is too late. To reduce your own risk of getting STDs and pregnancy, it is extremely important for you to learn to protect yourself!

 

Principles of Safer Sex:

  • Seriously consider whether you want to have sex
  • Prevent exposure to blood, semen, vaginal and other bodily fluids
  • Cover up body parts that could be infectious
  • Always use a condom, and use a new one every time
  • Be in a monogamous relationship
  • Make sure both you and your partner get tested for STDs
  • If you or your partner have/has contracted a STD, receive treatment immediately and do not have sex until your doctor says it’s okay

We use the term safer instead of safe because sexual activities can never be completely free of risk. The only way to entirely avoid STDs and unwanted pregnancy is abstinence (not having sex). Nevertheless, if you do choose to engage in sexual activities, complying with the above principles is essential to protect yourself.

 

Alternative Ways to Show Affection:

While the subject of sex may be over-emphasized in today’s media, there are many other ways for people in a relationship to show love. In fact, many people find these alternatives just as sexy and enough to express their love for each other:

  • Kissing
  • Dancing
  • Hugging
  • Touching
  • Massaging
  • Cuddling
  • Saying warm and tender things to each other
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October 22, 2014

Understanding the Difference between Dating and Sex:

kissing coupleDating is a time when two people get to know each other better. Too often teens think it is a hall pass to the other person’s body. Your date may say things like, “If you don’t want to have sex, why are we dating? or “If you truly love me, you shouldn’t say no.”  Remember, in any relationship, you have the right to voice your opinion. It is important for you to assert yourself and not give in to things you do not want to do. Be prepared to give answers like, “We’re dating because I love you and I want to spend time with you. If you want to have sex, then you are dating the wrong person.”

Saying “No”:

In a healthy relationship, couples respect each other’s right to say no. And the best way to say no to sex or affection is by saying “No.” Anything else could be taken the wrong way or could give the other person “reasons” to persuade you. Don’t be afraid to express your opinions and feelings. Any strong, loving relationship is built on the basis of mutual respect. If you feel forced to fulfill your date’s request, maybe that individual is not the right person for you.

Communicating with Your Partner about Safer Sex:

  • Be well-informed about sexual health issues
  • Talk to your partner about safer sex before you two become sexually intimate.
  • Choose a convenient time and a comfortable environment to talk.
  • Discuss one issue at a time.
  • Use “I” statements, such as I would feel more comfortable if we use a condom.
  • Ask open-ended questions. For example, What do you think if we use condoms as well as birth control pills? Or, What do you think if we wait until we graduate to have sex?
  • Avoid making assumptions; ask if you are unsure. For example, I think you said that you want us to use condoms as well birth control pills, is that right? Or, I think you want us to wait until we graduate to have sex, is that right?
  • Be patient to get your points across.
  • Give your partner time to response. Don’t interrupt and don’t jump to conclusion.
  • Let your partner know that you care about his/her feeling.
  • Stay firm with your commitment to sexual safety. Your partner may say things like, If you love me, you would trust me and not use a condom. Don’t give in to such kind of persuasion.
  • Understand that it is okay if things do not get resolved right away. Having some time to think first can be beneficial to both of you.

Resources:

Sex Ed Library:

http://www.sexedlibrary.org

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